Saturday, August 28, 2010

Trying Hard To Blend In

A HEADS-UP: I'm not sure why I wrote this but I just thought I should blog about it.  There isn't really a point to this, and it's not well thought-out now that I'm reading it over.

Today is Saturday, and Saturday is grocery shopping day.  Since we're Chinese, my mom and I always go to the Chinese supermarket.  We were walking past while I heard a little boy screaming and crying as if he just found out his favourite batman toy wasn't being sold anymore. (FYI, I'd only cry like that if they stopped making Brie cheese.) His grandmother was holding him and said to him (in Chinese),

"Hush, do you see any other kids crying? Stop it."

Which I found amusing because that's exactly what my mom used to say to me when I cried in public, which I didn't do very often because, again, I'd only cry like that if they stopped making Brie cheese... or if I wasn't allowed to get a Barbie that I really wanted, but I digress.

I don't know if this only happens in the Asian culture, or if it's a worldwide phenomenon, but I feel like this kind of upbringing has contributed to the way I am now.  I'm not what you'd call a rebel, and though I've become less shy since coming to Canada, I feel that my Chinese upbringing has basically told me to blend, not be noticed too much, and to not disappoint my parents. In fact, I can count on one hand the number of Asians I know who aren't going into engineering, commerce, or medicine.

What did your parents do when you cried in public as a child? Do you think this has affected your behaviour?


3 comments so far.

  1. Jana on August 28, 2010 at 9:03 PM

    I think sometimes my mother would leave me alone, or stand there and be a baby back. Looking back it was amusing, and I see other parents do it, just to show their children how stupid they look. I don't think it's effected my behavior though, I think I like attention.. but I don't think that's because my mother sometimes left me to cry. I think it's because it's just how I am. :)

  2. Cindy on August 29, 2010 at 8:49 PM

    Come to think of it, my parents would say something similar to the grandmother. I never really cried in public, but I always threw tantrums, which were equally embarrassing. But I agree that there seems to be a certain "Asian" mindset where modesty is incredibly important. I've always learnt that you shouldn't be drawing "negative" attention, and I guess crying in public counts. :P

  3. Meg on August 30, 2010 at 12:39 AM

    I don't remember what my parents did, but it was probably along those lines because my parents are as Asian as they get :P

    Also, I really want Brie cheese now.

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